Many on a journey through grief, as well as those who are part of their support system, find it helpful to read what others have written, and learned, about this very human experience. Reading the words of others can help individuals focus their thoughts and feelings, and also help them realize they are not alone. The following are books and other written material that might provide comfort and insight. Please feel free to let us know – at – your opinions about this material, or recommend others that you found helpful.

Please Note – The content provided on this website is for informational purposes only. It is not intended to be used as a diagnostic tool or to replace professional care. Please seek the assistance of a counseling professional if required.

GENERAL GRIEF: Learning About Loss and How To Cope

Canine, J. D. (1983). The Challenge of Living. Birmingham, MI: Ball Publishers. (Also available in Spanish.)

James, J. & Cherry, F. (1988). The Grief Recovery Handbook: A Step-by-Step Program for Moving Beyond Loss. New York: Harper & Row.

Guggenheim, J. (1996). Hello From Heaven. New York: Doubleday.

Landorf, J. (1974). Mourning Song. Old Tappan, N.J.: Fleming H. Revell.

Lewis, C. S. (1961) A Grief Observed. New York: Bantam Books.

Fitzgerald, Helen (1994). The Mourning Handbook. New York: Fireside.

Kubler-Ross, E. & Kessler, D. (2005). On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss. New York: Scribner.

Rando, T. (1991). How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. New York: Bantam.

Rosen, H. (1986). Unspoken Grief: Coping with Childhood Sibling Loss. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books.

Roberts, B. (2002). Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology. Troutdale, OR: NewSage Press.

Shaw, E. (2005) What To Do When a Loved One Dies: a Practical and Compassionate Guide to Dealing with Death on Life’s Terms. 2nd edition. Carlsbad, CA: Writeriffic Publishing Group.

Tatelbaum, J. (1980). The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery and Growth through Grief. New York: Harper & Row.

Temes, R. (1992) Living With an Empty Chair: A Guide through Grief. New York: New Horizon Publishers.

GRIEF and LOSS: Personal Healing

Auer, J. (2006). “Five Habits of Those Who Grieve Well.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Brooks, Jane. (1999). Midlife Orphan: Facing Life’s Changes Now That Your Parents Are Gone. New York: Berkley Books.

DiGiulio, R. “Losing Someone Close.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Hasser, R. (2006). “A Grieving Person’s Bill of Rights.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Hickman, M. W. (1994). Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief. New York: Avon Books.

James, J. & Friedman R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce and Other Losses. (Revised Edition) New York: Harper Perennial.

Levang, Elizabeth, Ph.D. and Ilse, Sherokee. (1992). Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond. Minneapolis, MN: Fairview Press.

Luebering, C. “Getting Through the Annual Reminders of Your Loss.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press. .

Menten, T. (2000). Gentle Closings: How to Say Goodbye to Someone You Love. Philadelphia: Running Press.

Miller, J. (2000). When Mourning Dawns: Living Your Way Fully Through the Seasons of Your Grief. Ft. Wayne, IN: Willowgreen.

Pfeiffer, J. (1997). A Different Season: A Practical Guide for Growth While Grieving a Death. Memphis, TN: Landscapes Publishing.

Sims, D. (1999). Why Are the Casseroles Always Tuna?: A Loving Look at the Lighter Side of Grief. Louisville, KY: Big A & Co.

Wolfelt, A.D., Ph.D (1992) Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal. Muncie, IN; Accelerated Development, Inc.

Grief While Others are Celebrating

Sims, D. “Getting Through the Holidays When You’ve Lost a Loved One.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Smith, H. I. (1999). A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others Are Celebrating. Kansas City, MO: Beacon Hill Press.

GRIEF and LOSS: For those who are Helping Others Heal

Calligaro, J.A. (1997). The Widow’s Resource. Grosse Ile, MI: Women’s Source Books Publishers.

Carlson, T. Suicide Survivors Handbook: A Guide for the Bereaved and Those Who Wish to Help Them.

Kroen, W.C. (1966). Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Loved One: A Guide for Grown-Ups. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing. ( to order)

Kushner, H. (2004). When Bad Things Happen to Good People. Knopf Publishing Group.

Luebering, C. (1998). “Grieving as a Family.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Levang, E., Ph.D. (1998). When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help. Minneapolis: Fairview Press.

Markell, M. (2005). Helping People with Developmental Disabilities Mourn. Fort Collins; CO: Companion Press.

Miller, N. (1995). “Finding Ways to Help Someone Who Is Grieving.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Talbot, K. (1999). “When Grief Brings Depression and Hopelessness.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Wolfelt, A., PhD. (2001) Healing a Friend’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas for Helping Someone You Love Through Loss. Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press.

GRIEF and LOSS: Professional Development and Academic Resources

Canine, J. D. (1996) The Psychosocial Aspects of Death and Dying. New York:McGraw-Hill.

Cook, A. & Dworkin, D. (1992) Helping the Bereaved: Therapeutic Interventions for Children, Adolescents and Adults. New York: Basic Books.

Corr, C., Nabe, C. & Corr, D. (2003). Death and Dying, Life and Living. (4th edition). Belmont, CA: Thompson Learning.

Doka, K. & Davidson, J. (1998). Living with Grief: Who We Are, How We Grieve. Washington, D.C.: Hospice Foundation of America.

Grollman, E. (1995). Bereaved Children and Teens: A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals. Boston: Beacon Press.

Hewett, J. H. (1980). After Suicide. Philadelphia: Westminister Press.

Hughes, M. (1995). Bereavement and Support: Healing in a Group Environment. Washington, DC: Taylor & Francis Group.

Nadeau, J. (1998). Families Making Sense of Death. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications.

Parkes, C. (1972). Bereavement: Studies of Grief in Adult Life. New York: International Universities Press.

Rando, T. (1984). Grief, Dying and Death: Clinical Interventions for Caregivers. Champaign, IL: Research Press.

Raphael, B. (1983). The Anatomy of Bereavement. New York: Basic Books.

Staudacher, C. (1987). Beyond Grief: A Guide for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Thompson, N. (2002). Loss and Grief: A Guide for Human Service Practitioners. New York: Palgrave.

Walsh, F. & McGoldrick, M. (2004). Living Beyond Loss: Death in the Family. 2nd Edition. New York: W.W. Norton & Co.

Worden, W. (2002). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner. (revised edition). Springer Publishing.


Buscaglia, L.F. (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story for All Ages. Thorofare, NJ: Slack, Inc.

Cain, B.S. (1990). Double-dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions. New York: Magination Press.

Fitzgerald, H. 1992). The Grieving Child: A Parent’s Guide. New York: Fireside.

Grollman, E. A. (1990) Talking About Death: A Dialogue between Parent and Child. Boston: Beacon Press.

Hartnett, J. (1993). Children and Grief: Big Issues for Little Hearts. South Burlington, VT: Good Mourning.

Jewett. C. (1982) Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss. Harvard, MA: Harvard Common Press.

LaTour, K. (1993). For Those Who Live: Helping Children Cope With the Death of a Brother or Sister. Omaha, NE: Centering Corp.

Luebering, C. “Helping a Child To Grieve and Grow.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press. .

Mundy, M. “Sad Isn’t Bad: When Someone You Love Dies.” CareNotes (for Kids) St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

O’Toole, D. (1989). Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope: A Read-Aloud Story for People of All Ages. Burnsville, N.C: Mountain Rainbow Press.

Ryan, V. “When Your Grandparent Dies…A Child’s Guide to Good Grief.” CareNotes (for Kids). St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Schwiebert, P. & DeKlyen, C. (2004) Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss. (A book for all ages.) Portland, OR: Grief Watch.

Shriver, Maria (1999). What’s Heaven? New York: St. Martin’s Press.

Simon, N. (1996). The Saddest Time. Morton Grove, IL: Albert Whitman.

Thomas, P. (2001). I Miss You: A First Look at Death. Hauppauge, NY: Barron’s Education Series.

Viorst, J. (1971) The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. New York: Simon & Schuster Children’s Publishing Division.

Worden, W. (1996). Children and Grief. New York: Gilford


The Dougy Center for Grieving Children. (1999). Helping Teens Cope with Death. Portland, OR:

Gootman, Marilyn. (2004) When A Friend Dies: A book for Teens About Grieving and Healing. Minneapolis: Free Spirit Publishing.

Grippo, D. “Bad Things: Wanting to Know Why They Happen.” CareNotes (for teens). St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Grollman, E. A. (1993) Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers. Boston: Beacon Press.

Long. S. “When Your Parent Dies.” CareNotes (for teens). St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

McGrath, T. “When Your Grandparent Dies.” CareNotes (for teens). St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Myers, E. (2004). When Will I Stop Hurting?: Teens, Loss and Grief. Scarecrow Press.

Morgan, J. (1990). The Dying and the Bereaved Teenager. Charles Press.

Neal, M. K. “Grieving When You Lose Someone Close.” CareNotes (for teens). St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Perschy, M. K. (2004). Helping Teens Work Through Grief. 2nd edition. New York: Brunner-Routledge.

WIDOWS and WIDOWERS: Beginning a Different Life

Ames, E. A Handbook for Widowers. (Order through )

Brothers, J. (1990). Widowed. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Brown, N. & Krimbill, J. (1995). Widowing: Surviving the First Year. Magoo, Limited.

Caine, Lynn. (1990). Being a Widow. New York: Penguin Books.

Campbell, S. & Silverman, P. (1987). Widower: When Men Are Left Alone. New York: Prentiss Hall Press.

Coughlin, R. (1993). Grieving: A Love Story. New York: Random House.

Diehl, E. (1990). “Finding Your Way After the Death of a Spouse.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Diehl, E. “Overcoming Loneliness After Loss.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Didon, J. (2005). The Year of Magical Thinking. New York: Vintage Books.

Grekin, J. (1997) After Death Do Us Part: A Widower’s Guide Through Grieving. Trade Paperback.

Haan, Walter. (2006). Independent Widower: How to Create a New Life after Your Loss. Southfarm Press.

Lenhart, G. (2006). Planet Widow: A Mother’s Story of Navigating a Suddenly Unrecognizable World. Emeryville, CA: Seal Press.

Menten, T. Going Solo: Widows Tell Their Stories of Love, Loss and Rediscovery. Philadelphia: Running Press.

Whipple. V. (2006). Lesbian Widows: Invisible Grief. New York: Harrington Park Press.

Zonnebelt-Smeenge, S. & Devries, R. (1998). Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books.

PARENTS: Grieving the Death of a Child

Crider, T. (1996) Give Sorrow Words: A Father’s Passage Through Grief. Chapel Hill, PA: Algonquin Books.

Donnelly, K. F. (1992). Recovering From the Loss of a Child. New York: MacMillian.

Evans, S. (1997). Later Courtney: A Mother Says Goodbye. Omaha, NE: Centering Corp.

Gambill, A. “Handling the Heartbreak of a Child’s Death.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Ilse, S. (1992). Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death. Maple Plain, MN: Wintergreen Press.

Lamb. J. M. “Handling the Heartbreak When a Baby Dies.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Lightner, C. & Hathaway, N. (1990). Giving Sorrow Words: How to Cope with Grief & Get on with Your Life. New York: Warner Books, Inc. (Ms. Lightner is founder of MADD)

Rando, T. A. (1986). Parental Loss of a Child. Champaign, IL; Research Press.

Schiff, H. (1977). The Bereaved Parent. New York: Crown.

Wolfelt, A. (2002). Healing a Parent’s Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies. Fort Collins, Co: Companion Press.


Angel, M.D. (1987). The Orphaned Adult: Confronting the Death of a Parent. New York: Human Sciences Press.

Akner, L. (1993). How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: a Guide for Adults. New York: Wm. Morrow & Co.

Diamond, J. (2006). Fatherless Sons: Healing the Legacy of Loss. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

Donnelly, K. F. (1987). Recovering From the Loss of a Parent. New York: Dodd, Mead & Co.

Edelman, H. (1994). Motherless Daughters. New York: Dell Publishers.

Harris, M. (1995). The Loss that is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father. New York: Penguin.

Meyers, E. (1986). When Parents Die. New York: Viking Penguin, Inc.

Secunda, V. (2004). Losing Your Parents, Finding Yourself: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life. DIANE Publishing.

DEATH, DYING and GRIEF: Facing the End of Life

Albom, M. (1997). Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, A Young Man, and the Last Great Lesson. New York, Doubleday.

Callanan, M. & Kelley, P. (1992). Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs and Communications of the Dying. New York: Bantam Books.

Canfield, J. & Hansen, M. (2003). Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul: Stories About Life, Death and Overcoming the Loss of a Loved One. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications.

Donnelly, K. F. (1994). Recovering From the Loss of a Loved One to AIDS. New York: St. Martin’s Press.

Harris, M. (1998) The Loss That is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father. New York: Penguin.

Kubler-Ross, E. (1969). On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families. New York: Scribner.

Kubler-Ross, E. (1983). On Children and Death. New York: Collier Books.

Nuland, S. (1995). How We Die: Reflections on Life’s Final Chapter. Knopf Publishing Group.

Webb, M. (1997) The Good Death: the New American Search to Reshape the End of Life. New York: Bantam Books.


Ancona, G. (1993). Pablo Remembers: The Fiesta of the Day of the Dead. New York: William Morrow.

Churn, Rev. A. The End is Just the Beginning: Lessons in Grieving For African Americans.

Techner D. & H., (1993). A Candle for Grandpa: A Guide to the Jewish Funeral for Children and parents. New York: UAHC Press.


Ekerdt P. & Ekerdt, D. (2002). “What Everyone Should Know About Suicide and Older People.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Fine, C. (1997). No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One. New York: Broadway Books.

Kolf, J.C. (2002). Standing in the Shadow: Help and Encouragement for Suicide Survivors. Grand Rapids, Mi: Baker Books.

Lucas, C. & Seiden, H. (1988). Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide. New York: Charles Scribner & Sons.

Pangrazzi, A. “Bearing the Special Grief of Suicide.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Ritter, W. A. (2004). Take the Dimness of My Soul Away: Healing After a Loved One’s Suicide. Harrisburg, PA: Morehouse Publishing.

Simolin, A. & Guinan, J. (1993). Healing after the Suicide of a Loved One. New York: Simon & Schuster.


Carmack, B. (2003). Grieving the Death of a Pet. Minneapolis: Augsburg Fortress.

Greene, L., PhD. & Landis, J. (2002) Saying Goodbye to the Pet You Love: A Complete Resource to Help You Heal. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.

Kay, W. J. (1984). Pet Loss and Human Bereavement. Ames, IA: Iowa State University Press.

Sife, W., Ph.D. (2005). The Loss of a Pet: A New Revised Edition. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

Viorst, J. (1971) The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. New York: Simon & Schuster Children’s Publishing Division.

Wolfelt, A. (2004). When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering and Healing. Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press.

FUNERALS: the Value of, and Related Topics

Baum, R. (1999). Funeral and Memorial Service Readings, Poems and Tributes. McFarland.

Canine, J.D. (1999). What Am I Going To Do With Myself When I Die? Stamford, CT: Appleton & Lange.

Grossoehme, D. H. (2006) “My Funeral Wish List.” CareNotes. St Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press.

Munro, E. (2000) Readings for Remembrance: A Collection for Funerals and Memorial Services. New York: Penguin Books.

Perl, L. (2001). Dying to Know: About Death, Funeral Customs, and Final Resting Places. Twenty-First Century Books.

York. S. (2000). Remembering Well: Rituals for Celebrating Life and Grief. San Francisco: Josey-Bass.